The best sex positions you haven't tried yet (and a few classics that never miss)
Let's be honest: most of us have a go-to move. The one that reliably works, the one you default to without thinking. And that's fine — comfort is sexy.
But sometimes, a small shift changes everything. A pillow here, a different angle there, maybe a little help from a well-designed toy. Here are some positions worth adding to your rotation, plus a few tips on making them even better.
Why do we get stuck in a position rut?
It's not laziness. It's habit. Our brains love efficiency, and that includes the bedroom. You know what works, so you stick with it. But research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior suggests that variety isn't just fun — it's linked to higher relationship satisfaction and sexual desire over time.
So think of this as a gentle nudge to explore. Not a performance, not a checklist. Just curiosity.
What are the best sex positions for deeper connection?
If eye contact and intimacy are your priorities, positions that let you face each other are the obvious choice. But there's a lesser-known variation that takes it up a notch: the 'Lazy Dog' with a twist. Instead of the usual from-behind angle, one partner lies flat on their stomach while the other drapes over them. It's deep, it's slow, and it leaves your hands free for other things — like holding each other or reaching for a body-safe vibrator to add some extra sensation.
Another favorite? The 'Legs Up' — where one partner rests their legs on the other's shoulders. It's a classic for a reason: it allows for deeper penetration and gives the receiving partner a clear view of everything happening. Plus, it's incredibly easy to adjust the angle by shifting hips just a few inches.
Which positions are best for clitoral stimulation?
This is where a little external help goes a long way. The 'Coital Alignment Technique' (CAT) is a game-changer. Instead of thrusting, the penetrating partner stays still and grinds against the clitoris. It sounds simple, but it works. One study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that a majority of women who tried it reported easier orgasms.
Of course, you can also just bring a toy into the mix. A small, wearable vibe like the Magic Wearable Bullet is perfect for this — it's compact, ultra-quiet (under 40 dB), and designed to stay put during movement. Just place it where it feels good and let the position do the rest.
What about positions that are easier on your knees and back?
Comfort matters. If a position leaves you cramping or distracted, it's not serving you. The 'Side-by-Side' or 'Spooning' position is a lifesaver for lazy mornings or when you're both tired but still want to connect. It's gentle, intimate, and allows for easy access to the clitoris.
Another option? The 'Chair' — where one partner sits on the edge of a sturdy chair or bed, and the other straddles them facing away. It's a great angle for G-spot stimulation, and it gives the person on top full control over depth and rhythm. Plus, it's a nice change of scenery from the bed.
How can a toy make your favorite position even better?
Toys aren't a replacement for what's already working — they're an upgrade. A warming vibrator like the Dream Butterfly heats up to body temperature in a few minutes, which makes it feel almost lifelike. Use it in any position where you have a free hand, or let your partner hold it while you focus on the rhythm.
And if you're exploring long-distance or just want to mix things up, the app-controlled Magic Wearable Bullet lets your partner take the wheel from anywhere. That's a whole different kind of connection.
Where does exploring new positions take you next?
The best position isn't the one that looks most impressive — it's the one where you both feel present, comfortable, and a little bit playful. So maybe your next step is trying one of these, or maybe it's just being more open to moving differently than you usually do.
And if you find yourself reaching for a little extra support, that's a beautiful thing. [IMAGE: A hand holding a sleek, white vibrator near a bed]
Frequently asked questions
What's the best sex position for beginners?
Start with positions that let you go slow and adjust easily — like spooning or missionary with a pillow under the hips. And keep talking. You'll figure out what feels good together.
How do I make a position more comfortable?
Use pillows, change the angle, or try a different surface. And don't be afraid to pause and adjust. It's not a performance — it's about both of you feeling good.
Are your toys safe to use with a partner?
Absolutely. All olyon toys are made from body-safe, phthalate-free silicone and are easy to clean with warm water and mild soap. Plus, they're waterproof (IPX7), so you can even bring them into the shower.
At the end of the day, the 'best' position is whatever makes you both feel connected and satisfied. Whether that's a classic you've perfected or a new angle you're still figuring out, the goal is pleasure, not perfection.
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